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| GWN7 |
 May 24 2004, 12:55 PM
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King of Road Trips  Group: Members Posts: 6,280 Joined: 31-December 02 From: Winnipeg, MB, Canada Member No.: 56 Region Association: Northstar Region  |
I dated a gal that lived 8 hrs away (Thunderbay) and everything was great till I phoned her one night and her boyfriend answered. Hey shit happens. Go visit her and see what happens.
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| ninefourteener |
May 24 2004, 01:09 PM
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Perfectly Normal Guy :) Group: Members Posts: 1,216 Joined: 3-June 03 From: St. Louis, MO Member No.: 779 |
QUOTE(SirAndy @ May 24 2004, 10:26 AM) didn't we just go through the same thing with you a few weeks ago? you were all "in love" and quick to tell everybody that she likes girls too and then "kabooommm" we had to listen to the whole brake-up crap and brad ended up hitting on her ... whatever makes your banana dance, dude ... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mueba.gif) Andy WHAT!!!!!!???? LOL That was several months ago... I posted something about how my new g/f hated my teener... then that basically turned into a conversation about how much of a freak she was--LOL 2 months later, she created a profile just to come in here and screw with me... this was in addition to harassing me through e-may, Yahoo, stalking not only me, but my ex wife, and even my good buddy that lives downtown. Then she started with threats to my daughter...it was actually pretty scary shit. But nevertheless...I know for a fact I never even THOUGHT about anything long term with that freak. She was a freaky piece of ass that went crazy on me.. thats it..... it's been pretty quiet now for a couple months...... Thank god--LOL |
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| ninefourteener |
May 24 2004, 01:14 PM
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Perfectly Normal Guy :) Group: Members Posts: 1,216 Joined: 3-June 03 From: St. Louis, MO Member No.: 779 |
QUOTE(aircooledboy @ May 24 2004, 08:42 AM) We took it slow, and dated long distance for about a year. We have been married now for 15 years next month. Aircooledboy........ Man... that was inspiring.... AWESOME! |
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| Qarl |
May 24 2004, 01:16 PM
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Shriveled member Group: Benefactors Posts: 5,233 Joined: 8-February 03 From: Florida Member No.: 271 Region Association: None  |
QUOTE Umm, think about that statement long and hard before you make any big changes... Ummm... i think he has been spending too much time thinking about long and hard. Me thinks he REALLY needs to take it slow and think about how this will all work, before anyone relocates, blah, blah, blah. Try the long distance thing out and see how it works... slowly. |
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| ninefourteener |
May 24 2004, 01:50 PM
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Perfectly Normal Guy :) Group: Members Posts: 1,216 Joined: 3-June 03 From: St. Louis, MO Member No.: 779 |
QUOTE(kellzey @ May 24 2004, 11:16 AM) Ummm... i think he has been spending too much time thinking about long and hard. Naaa.. it's really not about that this time. In the past month I've had 3 girlfriends, and about 5 bootycalls whenever I want em... Trust me.. I'm not driving 6 hours for a piece of ass... If this woman hadn't impressed the hell out of me, I wouldn't even bother to mention her. And yea... I'm not in a rush.. even if I made it sound that way. When I said we were trying this whole "long distance thing", I just wanted to get some advice, hear stories, etc. Don't worry... you're not gonna see any pics posted anytime soon of me in the teener, dragging beer cans behind me, and "Happily married" written in white shoe polish on the back window. LMAO I'm thinking 6 months is the magic time.... not necessarily to "do" anything... but to at least make some decisions, you know? Thanks for all the advice guys..... This club rocks (IMG:style_emoticons/default/beerchug.gif) |
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| fiid |
May 24 2004, 05:55 PM
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Turbo Megasquirted Subaru Member Group: Members Posts: 2,827 Joined: 7-April 03 From: San Francisco, CA Member No.: 530 Region Association: Northern California |
IMHO - Long distance relationships freakin suck. I would see how it goes for a bit before you do anything too serious. It's all a big game of craps. Some people do the long distance thing and get together and it's all hunky dory, for others it sucks. The only things I would mention is that when you have a long distance relationship - you don't actually get to know what kind of a person they are when they get home from work. Every time you see them you get all caught up in not having seen them for a while and ignore anything else. When you live with them - all that stuff you didn't see before becomes more significant.
Take it slow. |
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| SirAndy |
May 24 2004, 06:04 PM
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Resident German Group: Admin Posts: 41,943 Joined: 21-January 03 From: Oakland, Kalifornia Member No.: 179 Region Association: Northern California |
QUOTE(fiid @ May 24 2004, 04:55 PM) all that stuff you didn't see before becomes more significant amen! listen to the english guy ^^^ btw. fiid, aren't you supposed to be on a bike right now or something? like, getting in shape for your big week ??? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/spank.gif) Andy |
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| McMark |
May 24 2004, 08:00 PM
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914 Freak! Group: Retired Admin Posts: 20,179 Joined: 13-March 03 From: Grand Rapids, MI Member No.: 419 Region Association: None |
QUOTE(ninefourteener @ May 24 2004, 07:47 AM) ...I'd drop her ass like a half-eaten hamburger--LOL... WHOA! Why are you wasting hamburgers?! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/lol2.gif) |
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| fiid |
May 24 2004, 10:51 PM
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Turbo Megasquirted Subaru Member Group: Members Posts: 2,827 Joined: 7-April 03 From: San Francisco, CA Member No.: 530 Region Association: Northern California |
QUOTE(SirAndy @ May 24 2004, 04:04 PM) QUOTE(fiid @ May 24 2004, 04:55 PM) all that stuff you didn't see before becomes more significant amen! listen to the english guy ^^^ btw. fiid, aren't you supposed to be on a bike right now or something? like, getting in shape for your big week ??? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/spank.gif) Andy got about 2 weeks left (I'm terrified.) I am still below the minimum needed to take part in the event! Sponsor me now if you have any extra moolah!!! http://www.aidslifecycle.org/2113 Fiid. |
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| SirAndy |
May 24 2004, 11:02 PM
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Resident German Group: Admin Posts: 41,943 Joined: 21-January 03 From: Oakland, Kalifornia Member No.: 179 Region Association: Northern California |
QUOTE(fiid @ May 24 2004, 09:51 PM) Sponsor me now if you have any extra moolah!!! geeesh, be a bit more creative, will 'ya? you shouldn't have any problems selling yourself in your neighborhood. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif) Andy |
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| IronHillRestorations |
May 25 2004, 08:04 AM
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I. I. R. C. Group: Members Posts: 6,792 Joined: 18-March 03 From: West TN Member No.: 439 Region Association: None 
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Since I met my wife at a 914 event (Branson, MO 1998) and she was living in Springfield, MO and I in TN (about 375 miles between), I feel fairly qualified to answer this one! So we had a long distance relationship, a bit of an age difference (she's 13yrs younger), and now a great solid marriage with two wonderful kids.
First of all there is a major plus with a long distance relationship, and that is communication. You do a lot of it. You talk about lots of stuff you probably wouldn't discuss on date nights. For us this continued. You'd be surprised at the relationships that don't have good communication. Next would be the fact that after talking on the phone for weeks between visits, you'll enjoy the time you spend together, and I don't just mean "gettin busy". IMHO people in relationships tend to ignore partners at the worst possible time. For us this carried into our marriage. My advice would be to proceed full tilt, with care. Oh, and to learn to like the things about her that drive you crazy or piss you off. Anyone can like the good stuff, it's the things that nerve the crap out of you that you have to be able to live with, and love too. PK (IMG:style_emoticons/default/cool.gif) 5 yr old boy 3 yr old girl 7 914 cars, and a 911 parts car 00 Boxster 00 Windstar van 02 F150 SuperCrew 4wd Big house with a big utility bill 135 acres with 6 out buildings and a rental house 2 businessess and still Happily married |
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| aircooledboy |
May 25 2004, 10:38 AM
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Sweet Pea's 1st ride in daddy's "vroom -vroom" Group: Members Posts: 1,672 Joined: 4-February 04 From: Rockford, IL Member No.: 1,629 Region Association: Upper MidWest |
QUOTE(ninefourteener @ May 24 2004, 01:14 PM) QUOTE(aircooledboy @ May 24 2004, 08:42 AM) We took it slow, and dated long distance for about a year. We have been married now for 15 years next month. Aircooledboy........ Man... that was inspiring.... AWESOME! Glad you liked it my friend. I get so sick of the negative people in this world who's apparent mission in life is to convince everyone that relationships can't ever be anything more than a ball and chain, because theirs have always been that way. Well, it just ain't true. One of my pet peeves is when you hear someone announce they are getting married, and some asshole spouts off about what a bitch his wife is and what mistake it is to get married. I just wanna punch em. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/stfu.gif) Relationships aren't maintanance free. If you treat them like they are, they fall apart every time. If you and your partner are both willing to work at it, my experience has been that they can be pretty great, whether it is long distance or across the room. Good luck. If you ever head north, drop me a line. |
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| wheelo |
May 25 2004, 12:22 PM
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Dude Group: Members Posts: 265 Joined: 19-March 04 From: San Rafael, Ca Member No.: 1,818 |
Dude- from everything I've read here you might want some therapy, to ditch the "Psyco-Magnet" Label...You are attracted to "Freaky" bitches and this-one will be "busy" with her girlfriends when you're not around!
As was mentioned previously...you are thinking with the wrong head.... (what ever makes your bananna dance)..... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rocking nana.gif) P.S. - That will be $150.00 for group therapy fees, (hey,could help with new fundrasing effort). |
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| TROJANMAN |
May 25 2004, 12:24 PM
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Looks nice in pictures......... Group: Members Posts: 5,275 Joined: 5-March 04 From: Colorado Member No.: 1,753 Region Association: None |
QUOTE(mikez @ May 24 2004, 09:02 AM) Post pics of her boobs....then I'll let you know if "I" approve.... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/agree.gif) this is my favorite suggestion, then the advice would be free. |
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| TimT |
May 25 2004, 03:55 PM
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retired Group: Members Posts: 4,033 Joined: 18-February 03 From: Wantagh, NY Member No.: 313 |
QUOTE till I phoned her one night and her boyfriend answered Hey same thing happened to me!! it wasnt her bf though it was her hubby LOL I can laugh about it now (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) she lived in Seneca falls, I lived down on LI, about 5 hours or so away..She would either comeon dowm and we would spend time in NYC, or we would get together when I was at Watkins Glen (obligatory porsche content LOL) Back then I was a freak and was doing like 25-30 days a season at the Glen so I saw her alot.... It dawned on me one day something wasnt right...called her home phone... instead of the cel... and hubby picked up...Talk about a effed up situation :s OK enough about me having done the long distance thing for awhile... just keep your antenna up!! |
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| TimT |
May 25 2004, 03:56 PM
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retired Group: Members Posts: 4,033 Joined: 18-February 03 From: Wantagh, NY Member No.: 313 |
Hey how come none of our members of the female persuasion havent chimed in with their opinions?
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| Jenny |
May 25 2004, 04:46 PM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 4,060 Joined: 6-January 03 Member No.: 96 Region Association: None |
there's my que!
Long distance relationships suck big donkey :dhead: Sorry. Just how I feel about it. Tried it once when I was a young lass, and after deciding to follow him and go to a college near him, I found out that he's got another girlfriend. Nice. An older and wiser lass now, I know I need the physical aspect of a close relationship. I mean aside from sexual contact. I need to see my significant other, and have him close enough to give me a hug when I'm having a bad day. Maybe that's just me. Otherwise, how is it different from just being an opposite sex friend that you're really close with? Plus you guys know about the cheating rule, right? Different time zone/country/international waters don't count. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif) Jen |
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| TimT |
May 25 2004, 05:06 PM
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retired Group: Members Posts: 4,033 Joined: 18-February 03 From: Wantagh, NY Member No.: 313 |
Thanks Jen!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/beer.gif)
QUOTE and have him (them) close enough to give me a hug when I'm having a bad day thats one of the problems I had with a long distance thingy... everytime we saw each other things were planned, we are on our best behaviour etc... Some of the dynamic and spontaneous nature of a relationship was missing... In any event good luck!! I know of a few success stories... and some of the others have related theirs |
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| mike_the_man |
May 25 2004, 05:07 PM
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I like stuff! Group: Members Posts: 1,338 Joined: 11-June 03 From: Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada Member No.: 809 |
I was in a long distance relationship once, and it didn't work very well. I kinda think they suck, but it was when I was pretty young, so that most likely had something to do with it. If she makes you happy, then go for it. Distance can make things harder, but if you want it to work, it will work. Good luck, and congrats on meeting a good woman.
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| 4WheelDrifter |
May 25 2004, 06:33 PM
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Having a mid-life crisis @ 35 Group: Benefactors Posts: 201 Joined: 15-April 04 From: Bethel, CT Member No.: 1,934 |
I had an LD relationship last year (150 miles each way, not bad). Met her off-roading in PA. Dated 3 months but she got scared when things got really serious and her friends gave her crap for thinking of moving away from them. Her parents loved me, Her mom told me I was the best thing to happen to her. 9 months later and I'm still trying to get over her. She was cool as hell.
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